• 6 Essential Life Lessons I Learned from my Mom

    In honour of Mother’s Day, here are just a few things I learned from my mom that I want to teach my daughter:

    💡 Stay in touch with friends.

    It matters that you know people who knew you when you were in a different chapter of your life.

    💡 Meaningful work matters.

    My mother is an amazing nurse, genuinely caring about others and using her expertise to care for patients, with compassion and excellence.

    💡 You can build anything when you do it together.

    We built a log home together as a family — from scratch! I helped peel logs, sand wood, hammer nails, and paint walls. (Although, from this perspective, I don’t know if I was quite as essential as I thought I was at the time). It’s amazing what a team can do when they’re focused on a shared goal — and have amazing leaders.

    💡 Relationships matter more than a clean house.

    As the poem on our wall read, “Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow, for children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow. So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep. I’m rocking my baby. Babies don’t keep.” (Ruth Hulbert Hamilton)

    💡 It’s okay to take a rest — in fact, it’s essential.

    Every day and every week you need time to rest. Make time for a day of rest — and moments of rest, too.

    💡 Invite people over to dinner.

    Enjoy the conversation over a home-cooked meal. It doesn’t have to be fancy — just be together.

    What did you learn from your mother?

    6 Essential Life Lessons I Learned from my Mom

  • Let go of the overwhelm. Celebrate your Ta-Da! List

    Take a moment to celebrate how amazing you already are.

    If you’re like the rest of us, you have a never-ending to-do list, and the minute you check one item off, another gets added. (Or, let’s be honest, just as often we get excited about a new project and add 10 more items to our list!)

     So today may be the day to remind you of Lara Wellman’s wisdom. She writes:

    “By never being satisfied until everything is done, we set ourselves up to never be satisfied. Here’s the thing: There are always new things to add to our lists, because life and work keep evolving and moving” (p. 118).

    Today, instead of focusing on what remains on your to-do list, take a moment to make a list of all you’ve accomplished this year.

    Let’s make what Gretchen Rubin calls a “Ta-da! List.”

    Here are just a few of my accomplishments so far this year:

    • Taught an incredibly life-giving course – Storytelling for Leaders – to doctoral students at Fielding Graduate University who have so many stories to tell, so much impact, and such passion for social justice and equity,
    • Launched happierinhighered.com
    • Spent a week with my mom.
    • Discovered a new coffee shop that brings joy to my heart.
    • Shared my passion for the equity-mission of community colleges on a national panel with some pretty brilliant colleagues.
    • Practiced yoga.

    Yes, there are still loads of items on my to-do list, and many things I hope to (and need to!) accomplish this year. But for now, we’ve already done enough to celebrate.

    “When you can alleviate some of the urgency and heaviness around what still needs to come and celebrate your accomplishments, you change how your days feel” (Wellman, 2023, p. 119).

    What do you have to celebrate?

    Let go of the overwhelm. Celebrate your Ta-Da! List

  • 5 Self-Care Practices that are Free (or Cost the Same as a Cup of Coffee)

    You don’t have to be exhausted to deserve self-care. You deserve it now.

    Ever find yourself thinking that self-care is something you will do when you [enter your go-to excuse: find the time, the kids grow up, don’t have such a busy life, quit your job, have more money]?

    Here’s your reminder that some of the best self-care is free. (And, only takes a few minutes.)

    Here are 5 self-care practices you can start today (because you deserve self-care):

    1. Sit outside for a few moments before work with your morning cup of coffee. Listen to the birds. Take a deep breath. Give yourself 5 minutes to wake up before diving into your full and beautiful day. You have 5 minutes.
    2. Have coffee with a friend. This is one of my favourite go-to self-care practices. There’s nothing like a good conversation with a good friend. You’re not too busy for the people that matter most to you. So, text a friend now and make a plan to meet up for good coffee and good conversation. (They will be glad you did!)
    3. Listen to an uplifting or peaceful song. Music is one of life’s great pleasures. A good song can improve your mood, inspire you, or help you calm down. (Bonus points if you listen to music on a country road with the windows rolled down.) Two of my favourites for an immediate mood boost: “Beautiful Day” (U2), and “Happy” (Pharrell Williams).
    4. Take a short (or long!) walk with your partner, friend, or dog. Getting outside can be an immediate way to improve your mood – especially if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Did you know that actually taking forward action (i.e. walking forward) can help you feel like you’re making progress? Bonus: A walk is a great time to let your mind wander. You may just be able to solve that problem you’ve been wrestling with.
    5. Listen to an uplifting podcast. Where to start? Try “Happier,” co-hosted by Gretchen Rubin, author of “The Happiness Project,” and her sister, Elizabeth Craft.  

    5 Self-Care Practices that are Free (or Cost the Same as a Cup of Coffee)

  • Is Slow the New Productive?

    What would you stop doing, if doing less really does lead to greater creativity and accomplishment of what truly matters in your work?

    Like you, I take great pride in the work I do. I value the connections I form with students as we consider challenging topics about leadership. I take great satisfaction when I’ve developed a learning experience in which students are challenged and engaged. I thrive when I’m engaged in great conversation about how to create a life that you love.

    But, if you’re like me, you’ve also experienced days where minutes and hours are frittered away by email, logging in and out of systems (with multiple passwords and the dreaded Authenticator app), and responding to so many requests for your time. And when you’re not responding to these requests, you’re sending out your own emails and meeting requests, which essentially guarantees that those emails return to you like boomerangs.

    The best scholars and creatives know that we need dedicated, uninterrupted time to engage in the type of deep thinking (or mind wandering) that leads to our greatest work. But in the midst of our frenetic schedules and hustle culture, where can we find that time?

    Enter Cal Newport’s latest book: Slow Productivity, which reminds us that we’re not the only who feels like computers took over our work life long before AI came on the scene.

    For those of us who’ve thriving professionally because we’ve been diligently carving out time for Deep Work (another of Cal’s books) and trying to resist the “hyperactive hive mind” he describes in A World Without Email, this latest work offers us some powerful practical strategies to take us to the next level, where, “Doing les can indeed lead to more.”

    If you want to do really, really great work (and spend less time on the miniature tasks that can easily eat up a day), I recommend Slow Productivity.

    “When you approach a project without the hurried need to tend many barely contained fires, you enjoy a more expansive sense of experimentation.”

    (Newport, 2024, p. 59)

    Is Slow the New Productive?

  • No matter what job you have, you can find a higher ed career you love.

    Higher education leaders will tell you some version of this statement:

    “The reason our college/team/department is successful is that we have amazing faculty/team members/leaders. They bring so much talent to their work, they care about what we’re doing, and they pull off amazing things every day. They’re talented in ways that I am not.”

    We know that great work is done by great people. And higher ed has so many of them.

    • Leaders who excel at project management and guide our institutions through the re-accreditation process, complete with their timelines, project plans, and role responsibilities.
    • Grant managers who manage multi-million dollar budgets and provide support to Project Directors so we can achieve amazing things to support student success.
    • Marketing teams who create a strong brand that helps connect students with the exciting learning experiences at our institutions.
    • Professors who create engaging learning opportunities in class (either online or on campus), so students look forward to the transformational learning experience they will have in class.
    • Academic leaders who remind us that, despite the challenges we experience in teaching, the work we are doing in the academy transforms lives and communities – and it matters.
    • Executive assistants who manage academic operations, so faculty, staff, and students can thrive.
    • Professors who are acknowledged by their students for caring so much about their success, providing specific and helpful feedback on the writing, and connecting students with campus resources to support their learning.
    • Art faculty who design opportunities for students to create art, one of the enduring examples of human brilliance and creativity over the course of history.

    No matter what career you have, you can find a job in higher ed.

    We have teachers and academic leaders, of course, but also accountants, chefs, residence hall directors, psychologists, and athletic directors.  

    We have land developers, social media managers, electricians, recruiters (for students, staff, and faculty), and police/security officers.

    We have athletic trainers and scouts, financial aid advisors, librarians, and videographers. We have theatre directors and artists, musicians and event planners.

    We have enterprise systems managers, instructional designers, and tech support.

    We have government relations personnel, grant managers, and student activities staff.

    And many universities have hospitals, with doctors, lab techs, nurses, imaging techs, sanitation staff, nutritionists, pharmacists and more.

    If you love your career, but want to use your talents to make a difference, you might find a home in higher ed!

    No matter what job you have, you can find a higher ed career you love.

  • 5 Strategies to Keep Your Rockstars

    How to keep your top performers from leaving higher ed

    As leaders, one of our most important roles is to ensure that those we lead are accomplishing great things. We want them to thrive in their work. We want them to create effective programs to support students, design transformational learning experiences, enroll engaged students who care about learning, and manage operations efficiently.

    We want them to be rockstars!

    But our rockstars don’t always stick around. They’re so capable and awesome at their work that we can take them for granted.

    Until they let us know they’re moving on. (After all, they’re rockstars: they have options).

    So, if you want to keep your rockstars around, consider these 5 strategies.

    1. Tell them they’re rockstars. Be specific.  Often our top performers have high standards for themselves. After all, that’s how they got to be rockstars. But that doesn’t mean they know how awesome they are. (And even if they do, tell them anyway. )When you acknowledge their strengths, be specific. Instead of “Good job” or “I appreciate you,” tell them what makes them a rockstar. Say things like: “I really admire how often you acknowledge your team during our meetings” or “You demonstrated so much creativity in the design of that course.” By mentioning their specific strengths, you’re also letting them know what you value as a leader.
    2. Figure out what matters most to them. Then give it to them if you can. (Hint: You usually can). Just because we care about time off and connecting with colleagues over lunch, doesn’t mean that those we lead care about the same things. They might value public recognition, travelling to conferences, creative projects, leading others, having a nice office, or joining the team for happy hour. Figure out what they need. You can ask them what they value most – but keep in mind that sometimes they won’t tell you, either because they don’t know, or because they don’t want to say out loud that what really matters to them is to be able to leave the office early sometimes.  So pay attention. Listen. Observe. See what lights them up.
    3. Pay attention to their challenges – and support them through those challenges. Everyone needs something different. The mom of a 2-year-old needs a leader who understands and supports her when her child is sick and she asks to work remotely or come in late. The faculty member who has a spouse with cancer may need to teach all her classes online for a semester or two. The academic leader you supervise may have difficulty sleeping and need to come in late somedays. Whenever you can, make these adaptations and demonstrate flexibility.
    4. Let them make mistakes – and be honest about it. Our rockstars hold themselves to a high standard, and generally don’t like to make mistakes. But they will. Especially if they’re taking on new challenges, being innovative in their teaching, leading a new team, or launching creative programs to support student success. Tell them you expect there will be bumps along the way – but that you’ll solve problems together, learn from them, and then make a different mistake next time. Providing the freedom to fail – and the freedom to talk about it when they do – will not only reassure your rockstars, but also open space for greater innovation.
    5. Support their growth – in a way that they value. Our rockstars are rockstars because they challenge themselves to excellence. They usually value growth and development. They not only want to be excellent; they want to be better than they were before. Ask them how they want to grow. Do they want to lead a specific team or serve on a committee that matters to them? Do they want to earn another degree? Do they want to publish a journal article? Do they want to take on a higher-level leadership position? Ask them what they want – not just during formal employee evaluation or tenure review conversations, but regularly.

    As leaders, we want to be fair, compassionate, and supportive of those we lead. However, sometimes in our efforts to be fair, we fail to provide support for someone when they really need it – even though we can.

    One of the four strategies used by transformation leaders is to show individualized consideration (Northouse, 2022). That means we may need to resist our urge to apply the same rules to everyone. Everyone we lead is different: they bring different skills to their jobs, they use different strategies to achieve success, and they have different lives. They need us to know who they are and what matters to them. And create environments where they can thrive!

    Rockstars are going to be rockstars no matter where or when they work – or how many hours they work. They’ll do amazing work even when things are difficult, whether they’re teaching online or on campus, working a 40-hour or 20-hour or 50-hour week. They’ll be rockstars whether anyone is watching or not.

    What they won’t do is stick around if they feel like they can’t be rockstars. If they have to choose between being the type of parent they want to be or a rockstar employee, they may look for another path forward that allows them to do both. If they do amazing work but it’s never acknowledged, they may begin to wonder if what they’re doing matters to anyone. If they aren’t given opportunities to grow, they may look for a place that will provide that for them.

    They’re rockstars. They have options. Make sure they know their best option is to continue to work with you. Make sure you create an environment in which they can thrive!

    5 Strategies to Keep Your Rockstars

  • How I fell in love with teaching

    I fell in love with teaching and learning in a roundabout way. I was hired to lead an academic department with courses and faculty focused on student success and the first-year experience. At that point, I had limited teaching experience, but I was now leading a college-wide program of incredibly gifted, intelligent, and creative faculty. They were awesome teachers — and great colleagues.

    I looked longingly at the work of these faculty members. As they connected individually with students, I developed course planning spreadsheets. As they collaborated with each other to develop a learning portfolio for the first-year experience class, I processed faculty contracts.

    Now, don’t get me wrong! I love a good spreadsheet, I’m a little obsessed with planning, and I’m thrilled when adjunct faculty contracts get processed early (instead of after they’ve already started teaching).

    But I wanted to be part of the magic. I wanted to be engaged in the transformational experience of teaching and learning. So, I hired myself as a part-time faculty member, taught the course I was overseeing, and never looked back. (Oh wait, that’s not true — it’s a long road from adjunct to full-time professor. But that’s another story for another time.)

    How I fell in love with teaching

  • To lead authentically, you need to know yourself.

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  • Finding Joy in the Everyday: Embracing Small Moments of Happiness

    What small moments of happiness have you experienced today? In Tranquility by Tuesday, Laura Vanderkam reminds us that small moments of happiness can significantly enhance our overall happiness. “When we think about ‘joy’ and ‘happiness’” she writes, “we often think about whether the big pieces of a good life are in place: the prestigious job,…

  • Building A Strong Writing Practice: Does It All Start with Reading?

    Like many faculty, I love teaching and learning. As lifelong learners, our hearts and minds often yearn for time to think. To read. To write. We long for a leisurely afternoon to explore new ideas – time to finally pick up one of the books on the edge of our desk that we pre-ordered on…

  • Elevate Learning: Create Powerful + Uplifting Classroom Discussions

    Discussions are an important part of transformational learning. Together, we can learn more. But all too often, discussions (especially in online learning), become dry and transactional. In Dr. Catherine Denial’s new book, A Pedagogy of Kindness, she reminds us that we can create and facilitate authentic, invigorating discussions – about topics we love. “I worked…

  • It’s time to recognize and value the essential contributions of adjunct faculty.

    To all fellow higher ed leaders: As you are launching the academic year, here’s a friendly reminder of one of the best ways to value and honour your adjunct faculty: Process their contracts BEFORE you expect them to do any work. Commit to them, BEFORE you ask them to complete any work. Commit to them,…

  • Want to remember why you love teaching? Read Catherine Denial’s A Pedagogy of Kindness

    Today, I dove into Catherine Denial’s new book, A Pedagogy of Kindness, and by the time I reached the end of the first page, I was already making notes. Denial’s words struck a chord deep within me – finally, someone has articulated the hope I also have to create higher ed environments less immersed in…

  • I’m still speaking: The urgent need to keep making room for women’s voices to shine

    Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the power of our voices – how standing up and speaking out can resonate deeply when we trust our instincts and follow our hearts.   And I’ve wondered, how can we, as women leaders, make our voices heard effectively in a world that often overlooks or silences us? In a…